BlendedFamilyOneGoal: One Down

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

One Down

One down makes a huge difference. Especially when it is one of the tougher ones! Fuzzy is on a trip with school and it has been nice to have less fighting because of his ocd! We met with a psychiatrist and he was started on zoloft, after nothing at 12.5 and nothing at that doubled, I am feeling confident to discontinue it. We didn't fill out the paperwork and forgot it on our weekend trip, so he is pretty much off that . I don't really think there is a med to help, but might discuss this further with the doc. Then I am not in favor of the therapy sessions either...really- with the DCD are we going to get anywhere anyhow? It'd probably be better to save the energy and use that time for some 1 on 1 anyhow.

Buzzy was convinced that he was bit by a poisonous spider last night and told me that even daddy long legs are poisonous. Yikes, he said that his hand was numb, then pointed to a knuckle and then said it was (with his fingers, about an 1/8 inch) just a little bit numb. I wonder if he went to the nurse when he got to school, I could tell that he didn't trust me that there were no poisonous spiders here.

On the note of school- Buzzy came home with a planets presentation board. Funny thing was that one of the points under each planet was how many earth days their years are. I couldn't help but feel objective as he never remembers how many days are in an earth year. The last time he guessed 7 or 8. Now I wonder if the science project was confusing him, as Mercury has 8 days. Atleast now I know that when he answers that may be correct somewhere in the universe. Again, my satisfaction levels are not too high with public schools at this moment. Home schooling would be so sad though, I love that darn bus!!

So Fuzzy gets home tonight, Buzzy was wondering if I was getting him at 5am this morning at about 630am. I said see, this is why you won't stay home by yourself, you don't understand time. Like is that supposed to be a secret? He was full gripe load yesterday when he had to go with to the girls dance because Lue had a long day and couldn't be home in time. Buzzy said, why can't I stay home alone?! I said because you are not staying home alone, you don't even know what time it is. He then was mad at me, saying he does. So is it unfair of me to bring this to his attention then in the revealing moments of his deficits? Maybe I will never know, if done lovingly then I just hope it supports his understanding of our desires for his safety and well being. It's not like we are making things up!

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Buzzy and Fuzzy ages 13 and 14...ready for the world...living in the moment. Possible trauma and rad affects their ability to have realistic outlook to life.

Happy is a walking tickle me elmo. Very resilient, yet following some social skills that look like Fuzzy's ODD. Lost services last year after having them since 18 months. Has most benefited from the constant modeling her sister older by 5 days has provided for her.

Lilme, our apparent model, has her own set of issues, and sometimes the questions of what life would have been without the family dynamics changes we created and allowed. Seems to have some behavioral emotional events and can be pretty demanding.

Lillu is keeping up pretty good and is full of energy. Now we just don't want to wreck it!

Liltoo loves everyone and the balance the baby creates is even better than a pet, she has a magical way of bonding our family and lightening many frustrating moments.

Lulee 10 and Lua 14 are testing the waters of independence as they are primarily raised in an environment we have no control over and infact cringe at some of their everyday.

Lue is one hard working hubby that does great. Doesn't have a relationship with his dad- who Buzzy, Fuzzy, and Happy have also as a biological dad.

Retardo, per Spanish pronunciaton, Lue's dad most recently contacted us saying that he needed 15K in two weeks or he would take Lue to court. Years ago, when they abandoned their fire property, Lue retreived as a gift a totally dismanteled vehicle. By totally dismanteled there was not a screw in place.

Retardo and his wife, Hall, blame us for not letting them see their kids even though the other 3 they have no idea where they are.

Farmers, the family that adopted M & A, after we had our homestudy ready and spent thousands of dollars trying to get them. Thought they were trying to kill M and reported them to SS this summer. Blocked my number and removed me from FB. This is a woman that doesn't even talk to her immediate family, so not ready to have any emotional relationship and or reconciliation attempts. She knew that we would have turned them in. The kid weighed 44# and was nearly 11. Lathargic, on a compromising diet (gluten and dairy free) for behaviors. They said last winter they would check in the morning to see if he had made it, like livestock or something.

The oldest of the 6 kids that got taken from Retardo and Hall is in long term foster care, against our original ideas. We have come to terms with God's plan but look forward to the future to see what type of relationship the kids will be capable of having. They all have significant social, learning, and processing problems that no blood work, mri, or testing can really label. Sometimes a label helps us to better understand what the future holds.