BlendedFamilyOneGoal: Rapid Respit

Friday, June 10, 2011

Rapid Respit

As in meaning that I we are using lots of hours now, they expire in June and we were told to use them or we will not be able to get services someday if we really need them and it is good for us and the kids.
Tonight they are going over to the new girls and doing a parade among other things, I am sure they enjoy that focused cognitive therapy that we cannot provide. Even Lillu has progressed in certain concepts that make some repeated conversation and general topics beyond my capacity at that point. Having these names really throws me off. I should have picked better ones that have some meaning or something, I am like...what's their name? whatever the little bio boy.
so i need to print and finalize my pca schedule this summer and we are doing 9 hours a week of 1:1, more than we usually do in a month! So i hope that we see some progress for the kids. Fuzzy has been off his rocker lately with the ODD. And we tried zoloft, it didnt work! Now I feel discouraged to meet with the psyciatrist, but really that is what we should do. It is borderline intolerable because it goes with no rhyme or reason and only continually ostracizes him. Excuse me while I go look up that word.

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PenelopeJune 21, 2011 at 10:42 AM
You must get Setting Limits for your Strong-Willed Child by Robert MacKenzie! It helps a lot in giving techniques, such as giving choices. "Do you want to want to use the yellow washcloth or the blue one when you take your bath?"
Penelope
http://foster2forever.com
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Confusing Family Tree or Cartoon Reality?

Buzzy and Fuzzy ages 13 and 14...ready for the world...living in the moment. Possible trauma and rad affects their ability to have realistic outlook to life.

Happy is a walking tickle me elmo. Very resilient, yet following some social skills that look like Fuzzy's ODD. Lost services last year after having them since 18 months. Has most benefited from the constant modeling her sister older by 5 days has provided for her.

Lilme, our apparent model, has her own set of issues, and sometimes the questions of what life would have been without the family dynamics changes we created and allowed. Seems to have some behavioral emotional events and can be pretty demanding.

Lillu is keeping up pretty good and is full of energy. Now we just don't want to wreck it!

Liltoo loves everyone and the balance the baby creates is even better than a pet, she has a magical way of bonding our family and lightening many frustrating moments.

Lulee 10 and Lua 14 are testing the waters of independence as they are primarily raised in an environment we have no control over and infact cringe at some of their everyday.

Lue is one hard working hubby that does great. Doesn't have a relationship with his dad- who Buzzy, Fuzzy, and Happy have also as a biological dad.

Retardo, per Spanish pronunciaton, Lue's dad most recently contacted us saying that he needed 15K in two weeks or he would take Lue to court. Years ago, when they abandoned their fire property, Lue retreived as a gift a totally dismanteled vehicle. By totally dismanteled there was not a screw in place.

Retardo and his wife, Hall, blame us for not letting them see their kids even though the other 3 they have no idea where they are.

Farmers, the family that adopted M & A, after we had our homestudy ready and spent thousands of dollars trying to get them. Thought they were trying to kill M and reported them to SS this summer. Blocked my number and removed me from FB. This is a woman that doesn't even talk to her immediate family, so not ready to have any emotional relationship and or reconciliation attempts. She knew that we would have turned them in. The kid weighed 44# and was nearly 11. Lathargic, on a compromising diet (gluten and dairy free) for behaviors. They said last winter they would check in the morning to see if he had made it, like livestock or something.

The oldest of the 6 kids that got taken from Retardo and Hall is in long term foster care, against our original ideas. We have come to terms with God's plan but look forward to the future to see what type of relationship the kids will be capable of having. They all have significant social, learning, and processing problems that no blood work, mri, or testing can really label. Sometimes a label helps us to better understand what the future holds.