BlendedFamilyOneGoal: Hoarders in Training

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Hoarders in Training

A "clean" closet at my house, in Fuzzy and Buzzy's room- what is all that junk? Necessities, yep.

This is what Fuzzy's underbed collection is. With his little sheepish grin he asks, "what's it matter?" And really it doesn't; however, at this rate it has become clear that cleaning and organization skills are non-existent and I cannot compromise on opportunities to maintain expectations of cleanliness . This of course, is after a many claims that he had cleaned up his things. I just wonder when he has taken some of these items. A full paper, wth? He loves receipts and has been known to want ones he finds in parking lots, random carts, or any other place. He has an emotional fixation with things and finds the most ridiculous things sentimental, all the while disregarding and not caring for things of actual value. Is that just cognitive impairment, RAD, or what? Where are the answers? If we have the answers it might matter...right? Since solutions are not dependent on answers, as my conceptually challenged children have reminded me...I guess it doesn't matter! But my house, my roof, my rules. And someday maybe the rewards can be seen. Key word is MAYBE.

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Confusing Family Tree or Cartoon Reality?

Buzzy and Fuzzy ages 13 and 14...ready for the world...living in the moment. Possible trauma and rad affects their ability to have realistic outlook to life.

Happy is a walking tickle me elmo. Very resilient, yet following some social skills that look like Fuzzy's ODD. Lost services last year after having them since 18 months. Has most benefited from the constant modeling her sister older by 5 days has provided for her.

Lilme, our apparent model, has her own set of issues, and sometimes the questions of what life would have been without the family dynamics changes we created and allowed. Seems to have some behavioral emotional events and can be pretty demanding.

Lillu is keeping up pretty good and is full of energy. Now we just don't want to wreck it!

Liltoo loves everyone and the balance the baby creates is even better than a pet, she has a magical way of bonding our family and lightening many frustrating moments.

Lulee 10 and Lua 14 are testing the waters of independence as they are primarily raised in an environment we have no control over and infact cringe at some of their everyday.

Lue is one hard working hubby that does great. Doesn't have a relationship with his dad- who Buzzy, Fuzzy, and Happy have also as a biological dad.

Retardo, per Spanish pronunciaton, Lue's dad most recently contacted us saying that he needed 15K in two weeks or he would take Lue to court. Years ago, when they abandoned their fire property, Lue retreived as a gift a totally dismanteled vehicle. By totally dismanteled there was not a screw in place.

Retardo and his wife, Hall, blame us for not letting them see their kids even though the other 3 they have no idea where they are.

Farmers, the family that adopted M & A, after we had our homestudy ready and spent thousands of dollars trying to get them. Thought they were trying to kill M and reported them to SS this summer. Blocked my number and removed me from FB. This is a woman that doesn't even talk to her immediate family, so not ready to have any emotional relationship and or reconciliation attempts. She knew that we would have turned them in. The kid weighed 44# and was nearly 11. Lathargic, on a compromising diet (gluten and dairy free) for behaviors. They said last winter they would check in the morning to see if he had made it, like livestock or something.

The oldest of the 6 kids that got taken from Retardo and Hall is in long term foster care, against our original ideas. We have come to terms with God's plan but look forward to the future to see what type of relationship the kids will be capable of having. They all have significant social, learning, and processing problems that no blood work, mri, or testing can really label. Sometimes a label helps us to better understand what the future holds.