I hope that our decision to take in my s-i-l and her 4 kids will positively impact everyone involved. Because it isn't easy! And if you are 38 and have such a history of unhealthy relationships and emotional instability, I guess this is called foster familying. She is at court today. I just hope it doesn't turn into me telling her that the kids can't/shouldn't go back "home" until school is out. This was their 5th transfer THIS YEAR!!
That was my underlying motivation here, because once again they were in a (self-induced) crisis and they needed a place to go.
It is nice to see interactions with her and my adopted trio though, they are her half-siblings. It is funny though, because we feel like we are convincing her of their disabilities sometimes. In time, I think she has the capacity to understand our concerns. We sometimes get bogged down with labels and the deeper thinking once trained and informed with the psychology of traumatized kids. Her kids are actually traumatized too and her time is up for them to be in foster care and they have had a rough road. SO, this is all in love that we may encourage, model, and support her in being a strong woman able to parent her children and care for herself emotionally as well. That might be impractical and against all odds, but at least we can't say we didn't try...right?
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